Joseph and the coat of many colors, know the story?Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him all the more. He said to them, “Listen to this dream I had: We were binding sheaves of grain out in the field when suddenly my sheaf rose and stood upright, while your sheaves gathered around mine and bowed down to it.” His brothers said to him, “Do you intend to reign over us? Will you actually rule us?” And they hated him all the more because of his dream and what he had said. –Genesis 37:5-8
Even in prison, Joseph (son of Israel) was recognized for his trustworthiness and strength and was put into an overseer role. This is how, when the baker and chief cupbearer were imprisoned, he was in a position to attend to them, and eventually use his God given gifts. Remember, at one time, as the right hand of the Pharaoh, these men also worked for Joseph.
In God’s time, He presents Pharaoh with a message, through a dream, and the cupbearer remembers Joseph and tells of him and he is brought out of jail. After interpreting these dreams, the Pharaoh places him in a position equal to him, save the throne.
Had Joseph not still been in jail when the dreams occurred, he would not have been available to interpret them when needed. The recognition of the Pharaoh and the interpreting of his dreams bring to truth the dreams Joseph had when he was younger, the ones that so infuriated his brothers.
Ten of his brothers came to Joseph asking for food, because of the promised drought. Joseph saw a way for him to bring his family back together, but it would have to be through deceit. In an effort to see his little brother and possibly reconnect with his family; to heal old family wounds – Joseph aches for his family, he is not feeling angry, this man portrayed as the wisest in the land, turns to deceit.
Joseph is afraid. Look at how many times someone close to him has turned their back on him and caused his life agony. Yes, he prospered and was respected in a foreign land; yet even there he had a period of rejection due to another’s lies; but human prosperity does not heal emotional damage. And until the damage is allowed to be seen and is allowed to heal the damaged person continues to be in pain.
What pain are you in? What hurts have you suffered? Are there hurts you can take action on to begin the healing process? Ask for forgiveness for a word or deed done. Keep in mind, in these situations, you open the door with the apology and request for forgiveness, you cannot make the injured person accept the apology. That being said, give it to God and in God’s time, the other person will accept your apology.
Now turn it around, has someone opened the door to you but you’ve chosen not to accept the apology? To give the forgiveness? If so, this still lies in your court and you will have to answer for it. Right now, give it to God. Ask Him to help you accept the outreached hand, and then do it. Accepting an apology does not mean you have to be friends with the person who injured you. It only means both you and then other will be able to put the pain aside and move on.